Psychological test: Do I want a child? I don’t know why I want to continue the life of Zhitlov and material difficulties.
I’m 32 years old, I’m already 9 years old, women are already good with a man, I know that both of us harmoniously developed as special features and developed family. We have always lived well, not stale and not stale in any material way, a person has always earned more, lower, but at the same time I earn badly (I read about the importance of whom in other topics).no comments
If we became friends, well, and on the cob of our stosunkiv, we didn’t talk much about children, and for both of us, as if the topic was not especially important, if we planned for children, we discussed food, but never mind.
If I was 29 years old, I had a baby that was more hysterical for my mother, but then I was more "social", and not internal (for example, I was more important, so that I gave birth to 30 years, that I'm already "old-born" ). "Kudi already pull" toscho). I was really excited and... I literally fell into a panic! In fact, there was no joy at all, only fear, a worldless anxiety, that I won’t run into it, that life will no longer be like that, that I don’t want to, I’m afraid, it’s a little “someone else’s” in the middle ... well, it’s like that. The man helped me, but he couldn’t help me especially. So, as I turned to a psychotherapist for some other reason (panic attacks, as well as my mother's daughters - the separation was not completed to the end), I terminously turned again. I don’t remember our sessions in a report, but I calmed down and started to know about the pregnancy in the morning. Ale, after a couple of days, it became a weekend for me, which at that moment made me even more embarrassed, and after a few months it began to rejoice, as it didn’t sound cynical, because I started to be vigilant, because I’m not ready for motherhood internally, and even better we don’t want to have children until I really want and (dodatkovo) we won’t be better financially secure (my bezporadnist in front of doctors and additional financial vitrati pid hour of vacancy made me feel better). We talked a lot about the price with the person, having divided my wines, look, and we were calmly discussed by those who would like to say "it will be pizno", then we will adopt the child, if we want. After the weekend, the light-gazer changed greatly in me, I sharply changed the scope of work, I began to work hard in another profession, at the same time I was successful in it and I had much more employment, I started to live and live! The beginning of that new activity, as well as our relocation / outbuildings, took my time and strength, the nutrition of the children did not blame.At the same time, nothing in particular has changed (hey, we actually had a more stable life for that), I didn’t have a special care for the mother of children either. Hello!! I have to do more often and obsessively become spinning in my head about children, revisiting the "paradigm" and so on. I continue to look at the psychotherapist more and more about nutrition from mothers and professional activities, but I also give my respect to those that I strongly stick to nutrition about children, and that I am not impressed with my unambiguous choice. So I recently saw a session of group psychotherapy, there was food about those for whom I don’t have children, and I reacted more belligerently, defending my position (as if I were not so concrete, but still ...). After such vipadkіv I'm already a tizhnіv tizhnіv obmіrkovuyu, chi I want a child chi nі, tse I'm hysterically imposing myself as a concept. Because if I honestly feed myself, then I don’t want, I don’t want to change my life more comfortably, I don’t want to take a steam bath, I already sounded like that, I’m afraid too thin. І zavzhdi є yak pіdstrahuvannya mozhlivіst ozinovlennya. But why am I awake on a stake all the same day I faint and I can’t sing on my choice want to be on the nearest rock?
I would like to feel my own thoughts, and not my psychotherapist, I was treated with her (with interruptions) for about 6 years, and I realize that even in the singing world "an eye of one was merciful".
They discussed it with a person in a report, I know that the problem is even more important, it’s a big deal - don’t flog the fever, don’t try to prove all the mittvo that global nutrition “for 5 credits” (I know such a peculiarity for myself).(I read other topics here on the forum, quietly, who is afraid and doubtful, I learned a lot for myself, but I still can’t calm myself internally).
Why don't you know what you want? 6 ways to be smart
I don't know what I want to write this article, but I'll write anyway. Sometimes I just figure out what exactly I want: to sleep, to read, to hug a child, to write a book, to go to St. Petersburg, to create a shelter for homeless creatures. But sometimes ... As honestly, I'm lying! 🙂 I know what I want mayzhe zavzhdi (for a little wine, maybe, the choice of which yogurt in the supermarket). I don’t know what I want - it’s not about me.
Ale, it used to be like this. I remember that in childhood there were such moments, if I felt that I was boring, but I didn’t know what to do with myself, what to indulge in. I sat and thought: What do I want? Well, what do I want? I often said to myself: “I don’t know…”. Then I got tired of nudguvati beagle to grown up and fed: “What should I inhale at once?”. You proclaimed the options, and sometimes I began deedly to engage in proponated diyalnistyu (painting, walking, hanging out, reading), and sometimes I pretended like a child and became embarrassed, more they proclaimed “the wrong ones.”
So, I myself did not know what I wanted. But in one moment, for the sake of the grown-ups, they could be less zatsіkaviti (so I supposedly wanted to work more specifically, only I could not understand, to learn from myself). In a different way, the occupations were proponated, they were absolutely not cica, and I threw them out, as if I didn’t know what I wanted before. Ale, I already knew what I didn’t want at that moment. What robiti, because you don’t know what you want? How to understand, what do you really want?
Vzagali, all of our "hot" mayut different category. Well, let's use our butt: zamіzh chi nasіnnya. To that, putting your own pain in the ass, blame it in the heading of the article, consider the global nature of "hotilka" or "hotilok". Concretely їх, tse to ease the task. You don't know what you want. Tse pov'yazano іz today's day, yoga visits? Otherwise, you can move to more distant goals (for example, go out or not go out, enter honey or ped, move to another place). Chi here є more global perspective, viklikana existential crisis? Let's go?
Option 1: drop off from an unacceptable…
How important is it to understand what you want, maybe it would be easier to figure out what you definitely don’t want? Tse concretize the options that are no longer available, and it will be easier to choose from them. For example, today I don't want to go anywhere. Tse means that I want to spend the day at home - for the cob it is already good, I have lost the knowledge of what I want to do within the framework of homework. Abo: I definitely don't want to join the VNZ for a technical and economic specialty. Axis, the options have changed, but the stench is more specific!
Option 2: show yourself, show yourself ...
If you don’t know what you want, you can work out the axis of what: sit down handily (for example, lie down), flatten your eyes, show respect for the breath, work in the air and more lingering sight (repeat sprat once). Now, pochnіt povіlno rahuvati "navpaki", pochinayuchi, for example, like fifty. For this reason, don’t hurry to flatten your eyes - spit more trochs in such a state, better for everything, your thoughts will clear up, or you will see the image of a bad man.
3 option: uvі dream that reality
In the evening, before going to bed, try to “evil” the moment between sleep and unsleeping, and ask for a wet breath. You will fall asleep, but you will see it, for example, you will see a dream, otherwise a thought will appear immediately after awakening. Vranci also try to spend some time between the worlds of ranking sleep and awakening. Possibly, at such a station you will come to understand what you want for this day, for the next ten years. Vykoristovyte tsyu tekhnіku, won't work well not only on the vyvіshennya zavdannya, we are talking about today.
Option 4: charm list
Keep a list of your bazhan (those you want), but don’t be modest, let me help you to get it! Yak? - Ask you. - I don't know what I want? Vykoristovyte priyom vіd protilezhnoy, enter point by point. Reveal that you ask Father Frost for the Golden Fish, and you will have it. So is it easier? Now look at those that have happened. What do you want? If not, correct or clarify, if it is important, even if you want “not the same” - you can “not the right ones”.
Option 5: Papir endure everything
It also helps to keep records with one's own, with one's own bazhannyah. Do not write obov'yazkovo on a large scale, but still prepare a sprat of arkushiv paper. Pour the flow of information on paper, write everything that falls into the thought, what a “fool” you would not have imagined. If you don’t know what to start with - start from the head: I don’t know what I want and what I need to work. Develop a thought and wonder where you are taken away potik. Zdivovani?
Option 6: I want to talk about you
It doesn’t help anything to figure out what you want and the situation is serious, lower the choice of new cases, turn to a psychologist. Fahivets will help you not only to understand the reasons for those reasons, but also to recommend what you know “I want” to translate into specific words.
While I was writing the article, I figured out what I want:
- beat a child;
- come out fresh;
- seminice;
- read, read and read again;
- I won't tell you more! 🙂
I don’t know what I want - it’s not about me!
If you really want to find out what you want to improve your life, then I will ask before reviewing the options. You obov'yazkovo know for yourself a lot of new, spicy and fiery brown!
I want to take away the information at once!
Do you want to take away all life without the painful choice of unneeded victims? Take away!
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Kokhannya is very subjective and understandable, the protege of the skin, who, having eaten at the yogoi, can say that there is nothing beautiful and bazhanish in the world. Prote yak not have mercy on your feelings and recognize the first "symptoms" of love fever? It's no secret that zakhoplennya, suffocation, addiction and love may have similar signs. It is very important to remember the difference, shards of difference lurk deep in the middle of us. How to understand, why do you love a person after all? Let's look at a sprat of important food and understand what is good for inexhaustible cravings until the end.
Nasampered, it is necessary to think about why the viniclo chain was raised. Sounds like a thought? Everything is easy to finish. On the cob of stosunkіv, if the "flower and smell" tsukerkovo-bouquet novel, the girl and the lad anіtroch do not hesitate in the air - we are firmly convinced that this person is loved!
However, for a few months (or tizhniv) the erysipelas eyepieces subside, and the suffocation begins to succumb, and the scales of the yogo are shaped by the ideal. What are the right emotions? Maybe more sympathy? At the same time, it seems to go into the background, and the center has a respectful mind. Vіn pragne cool the fuse of our emotions, dbayuchi, zokrema, and about the heart, as if it could break. The voice of the mind is a garnet of a manifestation that speaks about the healthy psyche of a person.
The concept of "love" is unique and individual, shards of skin to love in their own way. Prote zagalnі risi pritamannі all people without blame: kohannya - it’s good, warm, expensive, pov’yazane for almost comfort, if your order is known.
Kokhannya signs
Upevnitis, chi really love the people, don’t make it easy and simple. What work? Consider the erysipelas of the eyepieces and look with maximum honesty at the eyes of the eyes from the side. Hearing friends that "good-natured" is not required! Otzhe, symptoms of a right kohanna:
- Lack of money. Spravzhnє kokhannya - bezkorislive chuttya. As a person, a woman is joking for a win, constantly checking that she is guilty of working for a new one, more, help with finances, don’t talk about kohannya. This is not emotion, but koristuvannya.
- Sexy pull. What can you do without sex? It's easy to say, everyone knows that platonic love is so called, because they don't care about physical contacts. However, there are a lot of psychologists' impressions that the lover will always be driven by sexual cravings, as a whole natural thing. At once, for the sake of the mother’s mother, a person wants to bachiti and a little bit of a fuss, but the charge just like that, not through the satisfaction of “creature” instincts.
- Crazy praise. To love - to accept a partner with a lot of yoga advantages and shortcomings. Zakokhana people are not able to reshape the dress according to their patterns. Do you want to be reborn with a heart friend? Shvidshe for everything, not a kohannya.
- Dovira. Smart to trust the kokhan people - an important show of the right kohan. As if you were sharing your problems and joys with your partner, don’t be afraid that you won’t be wised up and taken to the laughs, tse VONA. The inaccuracy of trust is one of the signs that you still don’t love this person.
- Postiynost. The right kohannya vіdznyaєtsya vіd zakokhanostі tim, scho on it do not pour in the same old furnishing. For example, as if relatives and friends act against the deception, man, how to love, to respect your own thought and feel. In addition, the right emotions do not change the plus for a minus, so that the partner seems to be far from being perfect.
- Sacrifice. Love can be ready to sacrifice yourself for the sake of the one whom your heart respects as the best person in the world. Sacrifice cannot be on the verge of bazhannya otrimati schos natomist, more than morally satisfied in the face of a happy kohanoi people.
Dekilka ways to understand what you love
Insanely, we would need our own indicator, which would allow us to signify: love is not. However, wiser people have not yet blamed such a tool, the axis of which “identify” interest, pretense, sex, sympathy and love will be behind the singing signs and parameters.
Method number 1.
Can't get over your own experiences and feelings? Give advice on a sprat of clumsy food:
- Do you think about the new one before you sleep, do you want to indulge you in receiving dreams?
- Wee pragnet zrobiti yogo are happy?
- Do you feel good, calmly entrusted with your sample?
- When you think about something new, do you laugh, do you brag about it?
- What do you care about the yearbook before you eat it?
- You respect yoga as the best person (woman)
- Do you know about all the shortcomings, but will you continue to accept yoga like this, like wine?
- Trivale farewell to him turbuє you?
As for all the questions, you sang “so”, but yours are a little more wide. With the appearance of innocence in the minds of the varto think. Remember that the test should be passed at your own splendid state, uniquely special joys and super girls.
Method number 2. Pluses and minuses
The extension of the psychological method is to divide the arch paper into two columns and write down the positive and negative aspects of your speech. So you can take your real stand to a new level of a yogo individual.
Analyze the number of pluses and minuses. Why is your kohana human being made? W ereevag chi nedolіkіv? The overriding of positive traits is another good match for your partner and a good placement for a partner.
Method number 3.
Better sit in the soft armchair, at the reception body kilim - you happen to spend on a new year. In addition, it is not to blame for the daily influencing factors, third-party thoughts. Entering the "trance" is simpler than robbing it, being in the middle of a damp breath.
Having calmed down and being guided by third-party thoughts, reveal the whole person. Wiishlo? What do you see? Do you want to pidit, kiss, squeeze up to your chest? Know your feelings (negative and positive), which you blame when you see the image of a kokhan.
Option number 4. "Yogo no more"
To finish the zhorstok, ale dieva technique. Try to find out that your favorites no longer bother with you (it is not necessary to dwell on this idea). Abo, perhaps, you didn’t get excited at all. What are you thinking about? What are the comfortable similarities? Chi, mozhlivo, stench bring you more than bіl that unacceptable vodchutya? Significance, whether the speeches of people are reasonable, if they are no longer able to. Under a bag of thought, and become aware of that, as if you were aware of it before your departure.
Kokhannya chi prihilnist?
One more wider food: how do you figure out why you love a person, why is it just a pretense? Nasampered, it is necessary to understand that pure stosunki and emotions may not be stirred up. Kokhannya, jealousy, sexual indulgence, lustfulness, whimsicality - all of us are experienced at once, but only in different proportions.
As we said more, an important sign of a true kohanny is respected by a dishonorable turbota. Attachment is respected by its own psychological dependency in the form of a partner.
The main peculiarity of attachment is not lack of cowardice and happiness, but fallowness and other suffering, as if you know a fallow people. As pretense is accompanied by special feelings, as if it allows a person to be free, one can speak of psychological obsession.
Otzhe, it is not easy to get to know your right emotions and experiences. Albeit, you are firmly versed in the correctness of your choice, do not hesitate in your choice. Kokhannya - it feels beautiful, like it’s necessary to enjoy yourself, especially like it’s mutual. Kohaite and be Kokhanimi!
Hello, I'm Nadia Plotnikova. Far from studying at SUDU as a special psychologist, a little girl devoted her life to working with children with problems, developing and consulting fathers and nurturing children. Otrimany dosvіd zastosovaya, among that number, and in the right creation of articles of psychological directives. Obviously, at any given time, I do not pretend to be the truth in the rest of the instance, however, I am sure that my articles will help the smart readers to overcome difficulties.
Fear of not being realized in motherhood and missing the opportunity
If you talk about professional activity, then what is there, you really happen to throw it away for a deaky hour. For wealthy workaholics, that carierist should sound greedy.
Ale marveling at the situation on the other side. Not from the position - what you will spend, but from the position - what you will come. Think about what opportunities will come to you.
Possibly, see the parable about the Gum bag of the “robot”. The bottom line is that the robot can’t go anywhere, that sphere, like “letting it in”, nothing will happen to it, it will spring up and turn around to you.
I'm afraid that the child will take 95% of the mother's hour
So, if you give birth to a child and lean back at home, then sing, you spend the whole hour with her. Ale іnakshe i don't see. You can be ready to be ready. I want to hire a watcher and go to work. Tezh vihіd, so you can trust someone else's people, why not. Deyakі adopt their mothers.
Especially for me it’s not pleasant, I want to bachiti like my child’s growth, now she changes, rejoices with her new chips. I want to kiss, cuddle and bestow my kohannya. Children grow up so quickly, if we want to grow through the river, the children will not be necessary, or, at least, not loudly, as we did not rob earlier.
Poboyuvannya through buttovі folding
And here everything is much simpler, lower it can be seen at first glance. The skin of the woman felt a slight shock, opining at the decree. I have strength in that, you need to know yourself at the hour, what you need to work, and what you can get better. I have a miracle article about those, how to get rid of post-slyapological depression.
Life and material difficulties
If you need to live at once, whether it be rented an apartment or a one-room apartment, then you don’t have to worry. The number of square meters does not play the same role.
I, for example, grew up in a small private hut outside the city, one without communal eccentricities. There were five of us, mother tato and we were three children. You know, it was only positively marked on our mutuals. We, children, are friendly with each other and miraculously join together.
I give up that I don't want
You didn’t want to, you didn’t want to, you didn’t read this article and you didn’t suffer from this food. And they lived on the quiet. And if you think that you are not ready, it is possible, so it is. Or maybe not. You can’t be a hundred yards ready. Like you commemorated, they blame the ALE forever.
Tisk society chi want like a mustache
I remember my own feelings, since all my friends began to vaccinate and have children, I felt like a fool. I wanted so much to be with them for company, but at that moment it was impossible. That's why I croaked as much as I could.
It is not rare that it is so much better for us to know if it is necessary for us to have children and in a certain number. Here, the nerves of the burned sage do not show.
Most of the time we fall into psychosomatics, the type does not go out. Worn by doctors, diligently rejoicing, obstezhuyemosya, timidly stimulated. And with a clean heart we say: well, don’t go out, but we want to. Axis i is an important reason why we have already seen steel.
If you know about yourself, then in the first place it is necessary to be appointed, which you really want to have children at once. Perhaps, however, you are not ready yet until the end of the day. Golovne, honestly sobі in tsemu zіznatisya, discuss tse with a cohanim person, dіznatisya, what do you think you are looking for. Or you can go and clear your head with a psychologist at once.
Tse vzagali okrema theme. In our culture, it is customary to change up to 25 and people up to 30. In our hour, the frames have naturally collapsed and sunk in the skin, like for the creation of the sim, so for the people of the child. Ale, for the charms, the old clichés are still in use.
My aunt has a girlfriend, who is 40 years old. The zamіzh won at 36 and at 37 gave birth to a donka. I energized from her, as it looked like її life before marriage. Vaughn said it was more fun. Vaughn rose in price with her friend, had fun at night clubs, and she got to know her future man. And at my request, as if they were so keenly put to the way of life, laughed and said that there were unbearable attacks on her, and at an hour it was very important to turn back with their onslaught.
I'm afraid I won't be able to love a child
І tse normal fight. A rich woman during the hour of pregnancy does not show love to a man, which is the growth in the middle of them. More than that, they do not consider the first months of the life of their little one. It’s just that nobody says anything about it, it’s not correct and ganebnym.
In addition, the vagіtnіst is for that and three 9 months, so that the mother was born with a child, a new roll. No need to panic, kohannya obov'yazkovo to show up. Even if you are not a marginal specialty, like a child, you get to drink a bottle of water and wallow with your comrades in the charms.
Fear of vidpovidalnosti for a small person
Living on their own, they called out to build up less on themselves. As there are force majeure events, you can easily get screwed. And it’s not easy to see that you have a child with a yakbi, it wouldn’t be so easy to get into trouble with labor.
For this reconciliation, there is a fear of confession for the little one. Adzhe now vi father, not grandma's haircut. It’s not like thinking that your building is difficult to find where you are with the appearance of a child. First of all, you will train your spontaneity in important situations.
Meni zdaetsya, zhіnki vyvodit themselves nurturing: chi I want a child and sorting out the PZ, put up to such “reinsurance”, for some skins, there are cracks and put straw near the possible places of the fall. And motherhood can not be fooled; The invisibility of reinsurance lies.
Shiro kazhuchi, I myself was like that. But if I, after all, conceived half of the fool, I would once again see myself. And everything seemed not so scary, but it was unreasonable.
Here it is necessary to overcome the problems in the world of their need, to thoroughly fix them - this is definitely not the right way for this period of life. The only thing that needs to be done is to worry about a successful pregnancy loss, check with a perinatologist and work the necessary follow-up procedures.
Trohi guessing, I can say, that vaginess is three times a sufficient hour, so that you can make up for yourself new rules for yourself, call to a new role, take care of a person and that mother about their fate, that they can take on themselves. Hanging around with material support, the person was forced to call to the point that now we are responsible for the family budget.
If you put yourself on re-insurance more than food, you obviously will not feel safe. You are troubled by problems, which can come with motherhood. But don't forget about those that are more than your fantasies about these problems, and your fantasies are even more turbulent and large-scale, and may not even reflect the real situation.
Later, I have identified the main factors, for which it can be said that a woman is ready for motherhood:
- You often think about vaginess, but always joke ALE.
- Your person also wants a child and supports your be-yak decision.
- Vіdnosini z cholovіkom chi kohanim do good nagodzhenі, vy vpevneni nym.
- You clearly understand that your thoughts about motherhood do not instill suspense and are not close to perfection.
Axis, vlasne, and that's it! Other problems are easily overcome, chi tse life, material, self-realization chi specialties and often psycho-emotional calm.
On Ozon, there is a miracle film of Narodzhuvati chi not narodzhuvati, which will help to make the right decision and that is the best way to feed on motherhood.
Well, as you have shown more food and sumniviv after reading the article, I recommend going to see a psychologist or a psychotherapist. So you better show your blind spots and make decisions depending on the specifics of your situation.
I will be grateful to everyone who presses on the stars!
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I want to describe my problem from afar, I guess what the root is there.
4 years ago I shot my future man, signed for peace. I will change the axis-axis will be 25, I will be 10 years older, I won’t have friends, I won’t have children. We live like 4 rocks (mayzhe), we are normal, we had our own problems, but we got used to it. I love the person very much, it’s mutual))
I want to raise one more warning: all the hour until the wedding, I kept repeating with the person that I don’t want children at all. From a yakes not an ogi, but a baiduzhe of being put up to strangers, but I didn’t want to think about my own. Moreover, it was not just on emotions, but so thoughtfully, I like to delve into myself and my thoughts.
After the zustrіchі realized that "yakbi if-nebud", then if you see people - so! The person is in favor of Buv, yet 31 is normal for a family. Prote buli life problems: income, living, relocation, then problems in a new place of supply (there is no water and sewerage, private house, so I live and dosi). Like 4 rocks flew by. We obviously broke the chain of food and didn’t protect the sprat once, but nothing happened and everything was “clouded”.
At the same time, a person starts to get nervous, and I realize that it’s not easy. Sim'ya on an intuitive level will require expansion. And I’ve read it, I’ve always dreamed of reading in this mortgage, but it was expensive, and now it’s worth the cost. Ale, I think that all the problems have been solved, what matters otherwise. my terrible fear, moreover, there are like bad thoughts. I’ll stroke, I’ll become scary, I won’t be able to work and practice, I won’t help anything (and our mothers live their own lives, but that’s on my disability), I can’t realize as a specialty, but the child will be allergic to them (I don’t like life without dogs and I declare that it is possible to live in the countryside), I want to go to the institute of allergology before the appointment and take the risk of the people of allergy to a minimum, as if it is possible, I myself suffer from allergies, but not too strong (in the light of my thoughts). There are no pennies for the likuvannya yet (everything is on the way).
I’m giving up all my brains, so that I can know the truth. fear, which is pіdsvіdomy, nezmagnenny. I remember that I had a twilight and we said that I was vagitna, a splash of joy (a couple of years), and then a motor panic began with tears and hysterics, and then came M and like a mountain from my shoulders.
Can you tell me what to fight against this phobia?
I want to understand why I want a mother child
If we became friends, well, and on the cob of our stosunkiv, we didn’t talk much about children, and for both of us, as if the topic was not especially important, if we planned for children, we discussed food, but never mind.
If I was 29 years old, I had a baby that was more hysterical for my mother, but then I was more "social", and not internal (for example, I was more important, so that I gave birth to 30 years, that I'm already "old-born" ). "Kudi already pull" toscho). I’ve already taken a deep breath. I literally panicked! In fact, there was no joy at all, only fear, a worldless anxiety, that I won’t run into it, that life will no longer be like that, that I don’t want, I’m afraid, I feel like a “stranger” in the middle. well, and so on. The man helped me, but he couldn’t help me especially. So, since I had turned to a psychotherapist for some other reason (panic attacks, as well as my mother’s daughter – the separation had not been completed to the end), then the term turned again. I don’t remember our sessions in a report, but I calmed down and started to know about the pregnancy in the morning. Ale, after a couple of days, it became a weekend for me, which at that moment made me even more embarrassed, and after a few months it began to rejoice, as it didn’t sound cynical, because I started to be vigilant, because I’m not ready for motherhood internally, and even better we don’t want to have children until I really want and (dodatkovo) we won’t be better financially secure (my bezporadnist in front of doctors and additional financial vitrati pid hour of vacancy made me feel better). We talked a lot about the price with the person, having divided my wines, look, and we were calmly discussed by those who would like to say "it will be pizno", then we will adopt the child, if we want. After the weekend, the light-gazer changed greatly in me, I sharply changed the scope of work, I began to work hard in another profession, at the same time I was successful in it and I had much more employment, I started to live and live! The beginning of that new activity, as well as our relocation / outbuildings, took my time and strength, the nutrition of the children did not blame.
We discussed it with a person in a report, I know that the problem is even more important, it’s a big deal - don’t flog the fever, don’t try to prove all the mittvo that global nutrition “for 5 credits” (I know for myself such a peculiarity).
I don't know what I want children
Meni 26, I have been friends for the past 3 years. Mutual love. The man really wants children. And I. I don’t know, I can say for sure earlier, I didn’t want to be called. We need to start working on the back, then let's move on to the zamіzh, at the same time take over the work. It is terrible to be deprived of a decree without a permanent job of work. I’m going to give up, the woman is guilty of her mother’s profession and the place of constant work, as a kind of bippovidalnym, we can not be a man. I especially feel incompetent without the most significant. I couldn't think about children. I love "foreign" children, not having played with me any childish crying, that and children reach out to me, ale. podvinі vіdchuttya. Now it has come to the point where the Sussian infants began to play tricks on me, if they stink loudly and obviously scream like that. From one side, understanding, what is required, and from the other. I found out the news about those. that Chergov's friend is vagіtna (moreover, she had zhahlivі problems with cym). I, like a scratch, pierced. I can't take the news, what's wrong. I'm starting to feel bad. Chi is unacceptable, chi, navpaki - I am hushing up for them. At this moment, I start thinking about my incompetence (as a woman, I don’t have anything woman in my soul, I can’t reach for motherhood), but step by step I start thinking about the appearance of a child with my sim. I’m wondering if I’ll still show up, I won’t try until the next day, that I’ll be all the same if I cry. It’s scary to show me that my life is fundamentally changing, that for at least 1 day I’ll have to imprison myself in 4 walls, give, mity, prat, listen to my op, don’t sleep at night, put in shape, pretend to fight forever for the appetite of a WOMAN. From the other side, sometimes you want children, I understand that you cannot live without children. I know vaguely, what is better, but I don’t. І scho for mayzhe 2 rocky efforts, I didn’t get it. What is it? Why? I don't understand. But the turbo is already serious, especially in the last hour. Tya duality. I want, and I don’t want, but if I want, I can’t.
In our country, life is scary and unstable.
Tim is no less, our fathers made us popular and twisted.
If you don't want it, don't make people.
Just don't mess with anything about the next thing.
Required, Mary, required. Women are constantly blackmailing men in their function as horns, and they also need to practice.
About the 26th you want and you can. From the future you will be 35-40 years old, if you want children with your soul, you will only be pizno, that person is not a fact that you will lose with you. I think everyone will come to you from the vagіtnistyu, do not boast, more often!
Author, if you don't want children, take it for now. It’s just that stupid stereotypes can be pressed on you - “it’s impossible without them, it’s already an hour, children need and go.” You can still navit without them. Tse times. Two - people need to start, if you understand everything, I want a child so much, pelushki and other troubles don’t care, I don’t want any kar'єri, n_ splkuvannya, I want a strum of yogo - you’re guaranteed not to be nі about shkoduvat. Thirdly, it is naive to take into account that you are sitting in 4 walls. It’s better for everything, you’ll sit there more richly, but like a kinder not to appear in the garden - so they went to school. At the fourth, your man, obviously, in the words of Yogo, even more, singsongly, dopomagatime. Just do not miss such a moment when in life a person is deprived of everything like at once - a robot, a splurge. its own social the significance of that іnshe PLUS child. And you will have a child, the day of a grandmother watching over him that MINUS splurge, a robot, his own special number of interests.
I especially don't want children, I want a person I want
є і work and lighting
I don’t blame other people’s children - as if they seem to be children, then let the stench bloom on someone else’s window
I want to have children at 30 or 40 years - peak. nakraynyak adopt, on the right is good.
Nafik, children. In this country, one day you will become a wife and we will be ill.
About the 26th you want and you can. From the future you will be 35-40 years old, you want children with your soul, only you will be happy,
Lighthouse. She didn't want to, she didn't want to. From the vіkom sche y folded іdmovіtіsі vіd vіd zvіchnogo razmіrenogo zhіttya.
Navpak yakraz! while you are young, you don’t want to wrap yourself in a child. But you want to take a walk, hang out with a man, live for yourself, wave your friends over the cordon, earn a penny, etc.! And at 35 years old you have more values, you sit at home for more than an hour, you have children with friends, you won’t get anyone anywhere, everything is on your own, talk about children. and you have nothing new! the axis of the same and zamislyuyuyutsya why not people!
I’ll have the same, I’ll be on the 29th summer, but they didn’t help me yet. The axis was chosen this year, but the closer the summer is, the more I know of the reasons for transferring it, help on the onset of summer. I just don’t know what to do with myself! Adzha people need everything, but I think it can be transferred to one river or not. The reason for the transfer to the river: a penny of pidkopati, dorobiti repairs, get comfortable and pіdlіkuvatisya, as it is necessary. The reason for not transferring: the fear of not being able to capture the future and the pressure of success. Please, why work?
I read ZhG richly, I didn’t take part in any way, but I sang it myself.
I have a special family of three people
baby axle is already 6.5 years old.
Veresni before school.
The robot takes a lot of time from me and from a person.
Ale, with my work, I could, without spending time at the salary, carry out a decree without a single day, wind a canopy booth.
At once I grasp the practice and again take care of the child (courses alone, others (shkіlnі))
Plus all sorts of sores and so on. and the state is especially on me
I have a monogamous person (to love only myself)
As if we were with a child at the sight, it seems that I already have that sum.
It seems that it is better to love me, and a child.
However, the splendid butt life should not be ashamed to say a phrase, to the kshtalt: “As I am calmly alive for 10 days,” for example, we were still on the road.
Vіn I have more respectful and pedantic.
And we have fun.
We have said more than a few years ago that a friend of a child can be in this world.
They chose a smart gap for the right (so they didn’t wear the canopies on the first school day)
Rіk that nachebto appointed, scho to the first class required to be qualified and to another nation.
Also, the closer to the right, more powerful roses are being conducted:
Like at once another is born, then I will ask for a third ...
It’s impossible to see what will happen tomorrow - it’s important hours.
At the same hour, with a 4-year-old change, we live with our triplet, the fathers settled leather in their apartment. Cars are regularly upgraded on bigger roads and new ones.
Repair robimo slowly, ale good.
I can’t say that everything is chocolate, but, I respect that everything is stable and not bad.
I firmly believe that my mission in this world is to grow not one, but two children, I myself grew up all my life alone without brothers and sisters.
The man is not zamislyuyuchis, throwing phrases, talking, filthy father, not able to win children, not able to openly and truly love them.
And in my words today: "What the hell is life so drіbno and flat, scho I'm not a very happy charge with him and I don't want to change my guilt - I'm sorry I'll lose one and so on." Vіn me vіdpovіv: "I'll be left alone in my old age - I'll take a skein and raise myself"
Maybe, zvichayno, and the crisis of 36 years (at the new one)
And yet, for some friends of the people of the people, in a different way, and sometimes in a third way.
I'm so dreamy that they asked me about the child.
From i I don’t know what to think, what to work.
I'm Ribi, vin-Bliznyuk.
I can’t live on my own and I love…. And the order of the result is such a person.
I don't know what I want baby
Alas, even more pіvbіdi, more frightening, scho my character even more inspires robots! Axis needs to be changed design, for example, a cafe. I have a thousand of that one idea, I'm working on a photo of what I want. And at some point, I’m not going to wedge in the great amount of information and ideas, and I’m sharply changing the topic, thinking that it will be shorter. And I’m allowed not to go out of anything, everything to be timid at the last moment and go out bullshit, and I’m not the ones I want! And all that I don’t even know, I like everything and I can’t choose! Otherwise, at some point, I just burn out because I can’t forgive, what I need and what I need to take care of.
And if I bring it up to the end, then I’ll let you know that it’s possible to work more quickly and often the end result is not suitable. I don’t care about my specialty, but about my whole life.
Is there anyone else as divine as I am?
How to fight among them?
I want to live near the capital city on the land of princes
And in front of me, I can’t say what I want to practice at once, de, like and skilki, as a result, I don’t hesitate to bring anything, but only sit and think of options. I don’t know how to work at once in my life, everything seems to be wrong and not the same
The axis would have known to the robot, the first month it would absorb me more, it’s new, hoarsely, where you need to understand that understanding. After a month, the fuse will pass and now the period of equal work. All OK. And then the breakdowns come - I really understand, well, they’re not the ones, they’re not like that, they’re not, it’s boring and I’m not the ones I wanted to do. Ale and understand that for me "right life" I can not. It's like a post-journey of the handy Y. Rozumiya, who would like to do something creative - floristry, decoration. But if it’s always lost in thoughts, I can’t turn them into reality. I don't really want to. I don't know what to start and what to do.
Axis recently thought of "Who is the child of the people"?
In short, I can’t realize my professional plan, I don’t have the sense that a job doesn’t bring me satisfaction. I don't want to rot.
An, tse exactly about me! Learn about floristry and decoration. Well, one on one. I want to, I inject. I don’t know which side to take and I’m afraid of that.
ale tezh buvaє, scho nibi want to take care of not tim, chim at once and in principle є chances, ale plan to be brought through furnishing.
in a different way (and the importance of whom I only recently bugged) - you need to learn how to logically order your ideas. split the project into stages of robotics, split, segments - as if it were handy. and put everything on the shelves. it’s coming back, it’s important, but in the big picture, a chaotic set of contributions is important.
/ I, as of today, specially under the end of the paragraph of the dissertation took away the allowance from the dresses in the form of an incentive to paint! /
Happy girls are prettiest girls
I was especially taught by the scientific robot - what do you have in everything, what are you robish, can you use internal logic. ale and an incentive for yourself is also needed. That is why I propagate the work on the stage-part-segment, and work in sequence, after the skin effect, which will be a miraculous end result. and make yourself want to be kind
I have to start planning my plans so I’m trying to get everything in my mind)) but the joy is good, you’re on the move! the axis only needs to be adjusted.
it feels so good to me that I put everything in for the rest of the moment. . Sometimes I still try to be late, and then it’s so accepting to hear that “Oh, but it’s already broken in me.” Nick, I have such a small girlfriend, but to get into KІСІ, and I have to work a lot of technical work, I hate it, but then we sell it to the "young" and the axis is so ryuє itself And why is the Internet one for all? Can't you build a net?
That’s for sure, less zusil is necessary to apply there, but if you don’t take care of me, if you want to be surprised, then you can show up more.
Oh, you can teach me Stimulus is power. I sometimes think that you spent a lot of time sitting at home and didn’t do anything until the end, but you could do everything and caught up with a Kokhanian or with girlfriends Tanya, like a young woman (I’m talking about the paragraph), I’m fixing the axis of the abstract, but for me it’s just too much
schos we didn’t get it. XP on one laptop, and 7 on the other.
Nika, that’s why that’s the problem for real - if everything is magnified and once - the robot is far from different, it doesn’t harmonize to a single “haircut”, so be it.
I’ll sound like I’m dying - I’ll write down everything that my mother wanted at the robot. such a "brainstorm". Let's sit and analyze, as I can but the structure as a whole, warehouse parts, and so on. And already in them I include all those ideas, as if I threw it all over. part of the sound in the fall - and it's okay. even though ideas are more classy - they can be implemented later, in other work (I work with scientific articles so much - I couldn’t write about everything in one place - I’ll add it to the kilka, and I’ll see three articles). It is impossible to concentrate all good ideas in one creation - this is the law of creativity.
and what you need to zmushuvat - it’s so especially if the body wants to sleep there, if it’s autumn and such a “fall of strength” is clearer - you definitely need to report zusil, sob trim yourself in your hands. but the robot over oneself is not easy.
in my case, earlier, it often grew stronger at the last moment, or at the end (in senior courses, I didn’t work like that, so that I don’t torment my body once again and don’t put a lot of stress on it). but at once you won’t go through like that - for the vikladachi don’t already stand over the soul from the guesswork, build everything this and that.
I’d better learn more effectively from the line, more objectively, who could reach more, but after a working day and early at home in the kitchen, I often don’t allow myself to write a dissertation - I want to lie on the sofa, read all kinds of garbage and marvel at serials. then everything is in me, I know for sure.
alright, I’ll be a good girl, if the first one split the building at the same time, it’s task number 1.
Batkіvskі zbori u formі gri "Chi I know my child"
Batkіvskі zbori u formі gri
Conduct form: gra
Audience: fathers of children of the 1st group.
The number of participants: chotiri bet the fathers of the children of the group.
to clarify the statements of the fathers about the individual characteristics of their children;
develop the self-confidence of the fathers;
develop a constructive statement of fathers about children;
give the fathers the opportunity to analyze the character of their children;
to formulate the correct setting of the fathers to the individual features of their child;
zatsіkaviti batkіv otrimanimi results, zmusiti їkh zamislitsya;
Participants. Vihovator, fathers.
1. Design a poster with quotes “The best thing that dads can give is tse vihovannya”; “Our children are like zukerki, what are the middle ones there?” and etc.
2. Fill out a request for collection, prepare tests for fathers, prepare background music, talk to the children on the gro, prepare a presentation.
HID BATKYVSKOI CHOICE.
Hello, shovni dads! Do you know your child? Zvichayno. Vіdpovіst mayzhe kozhen batko. The Polish teacher Galina Filipchuk says this about the question: We take care of our children from the first days of life. Tse mi, fathers, we are ready, we are dressed, we are bathed, we are put to sleep, we are to work the first steps and remember the first words. Tse we know the navkolyshnim world, vtishaemo, cherguyemo bіla їhny lizhka, if the stench is ill. How can someone know their child better, її mothers and father - the closest people, the most beloved and self-confessed? rich father schiro vvazhayut, scho to know your child stink even better. The smaller our child is, the more effective we know it. And yet, in the preschool age, we remember that our judgments about the new one are becoming more and more close. I, perhaps, after 10-12 years, it will be revealed in the individual’s own child of absolute ignorance. Naturally blame the food: “Do we know our child?” let's talk about it, shanovni dads. Today, we will hold a batkivsky gathering with you on the topic “I know my child” at the form of gris.
I am pleased to present this, as it was good time to take the fate of whom you come. Tse sіm'ya…..
"Portrait of my motherland".
I asked the boys ahead of time to tell you about my family, I will read all the children at once, appoint your leader, I told myself about your homeland in some of the options.
I will read out without the names of professions:
my mom…..(yak?), she loves robiti……
my tato……(what?), win to love robiti…….I myself…..(what?), I love…….
We are right when we marvel at the screen, the child herself seems to be right.
I will give your respect to the bank to supply you with options for advice. Your task is to guess what your child is like.
How can the grass in the nursery most love your child?
What kind of flooring suits your child?
Yaka plot-role-playing game is in love with your child?
What does your child like to do on a holiday for an hour of a walk?
What is your child most afraid of?
What way is your child's will to desire?
What, in your child's opinion, can you embarrass your mother?
Chi is easy buti grown up so why?
What is needed for the total happiness of your homeland?
What can people not live without?
Yakbi ti know the belongings, then why did you rob bi?
I asked the lads to paint little ones on the theme “as I show my mature life”. Your task is to find out about the work of your child.
Children give meaning to words, fathers guess the word
(Sim'ya, bіl, fear, happiness).
On why our game part ended, let's pіdіb'єmo pіdbags:
Vihovatel. And now let's evaluate ourselves: what are my fathers? Sometimes we can take a walk, and sometimes I feel guilty before a child, but I don’t show it. Who doesn’t want to take a look at the question, “What kind of father am I?”
Know, be kind, phrases, like you often live with the children (distribute food).
1. How many times do you repeat yourself? (2 bali)
2. Please me, be kind. (1 point)
3. I don’t know what I did without you! (1 point)
4. I in whom are you born like that? (2 bali)
5. Like you have wonderful friends! (1 point)
6. Who do you look like? (2 bali)
7. I'm in your rocky ... (2 balls)
8. You are my support and helper (1 point)
9. Well, what kind of friends do you have? (2 bali)
10. What do you think about? (2 bali)
11. What a smart guy in me! (1 point)
12. How do you know? (1 point)
13. All children are like children, but you ... (2 balls)
14. What a ti I have kmіtlivy! (1 point)
Now, guard the big number of balls.
Vіd 5 to 7 points. You live with a child soul by soul. You respect the child, and she will love and respect you. Your stosunki priyat the becoming of the individual.
Vіd 8 to 10 points there are deacons collapsing in mutual relations with a child, unreasonable її problems, try to shift the blame for the shortfalls in її development on the child itself.
Від 11 balls and more. You are inconsistent in dealing with a child. Vіn respect you, even if you don't make a door with you. Yogo is a subtle development to the point of vipadkovy furnishing.
It’s not enough to put a strain on the real camp, even if your father doesn’t know anything better for you.
Otzhe, let's pіdіb'єmo pіdіb'єmo pіdbags of our collections.
What is needed for a child for full development? Even more briefly, then it’s normal fathers, garni wilt life and vihovannia, full intercourse with the same age and grown-up, fast, active, which shows vika diyalnist. The disruption of the normal development of the child is insistent, if you can’t get along with that mother, between fathers and teachers. And then there are those that are called the disintegration of the individual. Seemingly simpler, the child is likened to a cart, which pulls at the side of the ribs. Tody the development of slipping chi is dying. The line changes behaviors often taking their cob from early childhood and when unfriendly environments rise, leading to persistent indiscipline, the fault of other forms of anti-community behavior in the middle age. Nasampered, you need to use our, grown-up pardons. Dobrim, Romoznim, right-handed to Vivest Sitina Zi I will become a discomfort (Poorbanosteti, Unhochechnostі, Zanedbanostetі, Neshovnostіnnostі, softnostі, breeding) І Tілки Potimim (Abo Singo-Tsim) Dotcommunicate yom to see the goodness in Nivazhchіyi for nyii, Vikkikati Bazhannya | I believe in myself, my strength and ability.
We would like to finish our zustrіch, we would come. I am inspired by what you, fathers, are doing, what your children are doing in a kindergarten. Tsikavo? Therefore, I want to propagate your respect with a small presentation. Respect on the screen.
Fear of not being realized in motherhood and missing the opportunity
Especially for me it’s not pleasant, I want to bachiti like my child’s growth, now she changes, rejoices with her new chips. I want to kiss, cuddle and bestow my kohannya. Children grow up so quickly, if we want to grow through the river, the children will not be necessary, or, at least, not loudly, as we did not rob earlier.
Poboyuvannya through buttovі folding
Life and material difficulties
If you need to live at once, whether it be rented an apartment or a one-room apartment, then you don’t have to worry. The number of square meters does not play the same role.
I, for example, grew up in a small private hut outside the city, one without communal eccentricities. There were five of us, mother tato and we were three children. You know, it was only positively marked on our mutuals. We, children, are friendly with each other and miraculously join together.
I wonder what
You didn’t want to, you didn’t want to, you didn’t read this article and you didn’t suffer from this food. And they lived on the quiet. And if you think that you are not ready, it is possible, so it is. Or maybe not. You can’t be a hundred yards ready. Like you commemorated, they blame the ALE forever.
Tisk society chi want like a mustache
I remember my own feelings, since all my friends began to vaccinate and have children, I felt like a fool. I wanted so much to be with them for company, but at that moment it was impossible. That's why I croaked as much as I could.
It is not rare that it is so much better for us to know if it is necessary for us to have children and in a certain number. Here, the nerves of the burned sage do not show.
Most of the time we fall into psychosomatics, the type does not go out. Worn by doctors, diligently rejoicing, obstezhuyemosya, timidly stimulated. And with a clean heart we say: well, don’t go out, but we want to. Axis i is an important reason why we have already seen steel.
If you know about yourself, then in the first place it is necessary to be appointed, which you really want to have children at once. Perhaps, however, you are not ready yet until the end of the day. Golovne, honestly sobі in tsemu zіznatisya, discuss tse with a cohanim person, dіznatisya, what do you think you are looking for. Or you can go and clear your head with a psychologist at once.
Need to spawn up to 30
Tse vzagali okrema theme. In our culture, it is customary to change up to 25 and people up to 30. In our hour, the frames have naturally collapsed and sunk in the skin, like for the creation of the sim, so for the people of the child. Ale, for the charms, the old clichés are still in use.
My aunt has a girlfriend, who is 40 years old. The zamіzh won at 36 and at 37 gave birth to a donka. I energized from her, as it looked like її life before marriage. Vaughn said it was more fun. Vaughn raised her price for her friend, had fun in night clubs. And at my request, as if they were so keenly put to the way of life, laughed and said that there were unbearable attacks on her, and at an hour it was very important to turn back with their onslaught.
I'm afraid I won't be able to love a child
І tse normal fight. A lot of women are under an hour of vaginess to people, like growth in the middle of them. More than that, they do not consider the first months of the life of their little one. It’s just that nobody says anything about it, it’s not correct and ganebnym.
In addition, the vagіtnіst is for that and three 9 months, so that the mother was born with a child, a new roll. No need to panic, kohannya obov'yazkovo to show up. Even if you are not a marginal specialty, like a child, you get to drink a bottle of water and wallow with your comrades in the charms.
Fear of vidpovidalnosti for a small person
Living on their own, they called out to build up less on themselves. As there are force majeure events, you can easily get screwed. And it’s not easy to see that you have a child with a yakbi, it wouldn’t be so easy to get into trouble with labor.
For this reconciliation, there is a fear of confession for the little one. Adzhe now vi father, not grandma's haircut. It’s not like thinking that your building is difficult to find where you are with the appearance of a child. First of all, you will train your spontaneity in important situations.
Meni zdaetsya, zhіnki vyvodit themselves nurturing: chi I want a child and sorting out the PZ, put up to such “reinsurance”, for some skins, there are cracks and put straw near the possible places of the fall. And motherhood can not be fooled; The invisibility of reinsurance lies.
Shiro kazhuchi, I myself was like that. But if I, after all, conceived half of the fool, I would once again see myself. And everything seemed not so scary, but it was unreasonable.
Here it is necessary to overcome the problems in the world of their need, to thoroughly fix them - this is definitely not the right way for this period of life. The only thing that needs work is to check with a perinatologist and work the necessary follow-up procedures at the same time.
Trohi guessing, I can say, that vaginess is three times a sufficient hour, so that you can make up for yourself new rules for yourself, call to a new role, take care of a person and that mother about their fate, that they can take on themselves. Hanging around with material support, the person was forced to call to the point that now we are responsible for the family budget.
If you put yourself on re-insurance more than food, you obviously will not feel safe. You are troubled by problems, which can come with motherhood. But don't forget about those that are more than your fantasies about these problems, and your fantasies are even more turbulent and large-scale, and may not even reflect the real situation.
Later, I have identified the main factors, for which it can be said that a woman is ready for motherhood:
- You often think about vaginess, but always joke ALE.
- Your person also wants a child and supports your be-yak decision.
- Vіdnosini z cholovіkom chi kohanim do good nagodzhenі, vy vpevneni nym.
- You clearly understand that your thoughts about motherhood do not instill suspense and are not close to perfection.
Axis, vlasne, and that's it! Other problems are easily overcome, chi tse life, material, self-realization chi specialties and often psycho-emotional calm.
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